WELL SLAP ME UPSIDE THE HEAD

I need a thump on the head.  You can probably guess why if you read my last post.  Ai is great for INFORMAL information.  When I did a deep dive into the sodium potassium phosphate thing I learned one heck of a lot...with the help with ai.  I also did my own googling and confirmed a lot of what ai had gathered.   My mistake clearly was following the very extreme difficult way of eating to a tee. And I will say ai gave me plenty of admonitions to get doctor approval.  Which of course living in this stupid province we can't get very easily.  And by the time I was in trouble the only way I could get medical help was at the emergency at our local peewee hospital.  Which btw, is famous for booting really sick people out of there to go to the clinic and not bother them.  I mean it.  I have seen half dead people sitting in the long line of chairs in the hallway at that one and only clinic.

So within one week of extremely low potassium and phos my legs quit working.  It was the creepiest scariest feeling.  For three or four days I kept it up and kept trying.  For sure my feet and legs got nice and skinny but....I can do that just cutting the salt.  I finally couldn't stand it...no pun intended.  And basically I said a big F*CK IT in my head (actually I think I yelled it) and still being mindful of carbs I dove into a potassium orgy.  Over the next few days I ate eight bananas and am going to eat potatoes and tomatoes.  Just til my legs come back because thats a lot of carbs.

But it wasn't until this morning I hopped out of my chair where I had spent the night and was dashing to the loo when I belatedly noticed my legs were back to normal!!!!  It took that long!!!  My kidneys are just going to have to cope with the two evil p's. (shovel list, no, back hoe list).  I won't be doing that again until I know I won't be outliving my kidneys for heaven's sake.

I'm going to take a page out of my dad's life rules.  He was diagnosed with heart issues and told to knock off fats etc.  the usual doctor crap.  He decided he may cut back on the butter but be damned if he was going to stop eating his bacon and eggs and spuds for breakfast.  You gotta enjoy your life.  Unfortunately he had a massive heart attack a little while later and died.  He was 57. He died a happy man.  I am going to emulate him.  I am almost 74, not scared of dying and I think given how fast my feet got skinny when I quit sodium, my kidneys are still working.

I am heading to North Van for a few days on the 16th.  Monte is taking me and he will stay in a hotel for three nights then bring me home.  April has her final operation and she is thinking it will be fairly easy...in and out possibly the same day.  Myles, bless his heart, is taking three days off too so she will have lots of help.  Then I think we are planning to head back over near the end of the month for the PNE.  I haven't been to the PNE in forever.  I want to go on the scrambler one more time.  I want Kathy to come and join me and sit on the inside!!!!  hahahaha!!!!

Well I just cleaned the kitchen...first in two weeks or more.  Whew!!! It needed it!!!  I kind of like it when it's really bad.  I love the processing, organizing the work, and getting it shiny.  And then that moment when I am done and I turn around in the doorway as I am leaving the kitchen and take a satisfied look at the clean counters and organized garbage and the hum of the dishwasher.  My life has become very small. I am happy til I hear Mr. Man go in there and cupboard doors squeak open but can't hear them close, hear things clunking on the stove, counters and in the sink.  And this is a guy that has pretty much never put anything in the garbage....ever.  But he is the nicest guy you'd want to meet so thats what counts.

Thats it for today.  I am a happy relieved and smarter camper.  TTYL&TFL

I NEED ADVICE

 I am in hell.  This is another very self oriented post.  Sorry but I am asking any of you with health knowledge for advice.  Some of you have helped me in the past.  My email is hp1104@gmail.com.  I will so welcome anything anyone has to offer.

I have, as of two years ago, been diagnosed with stage 3 ckd, chronic kidney disease.  I didn't realize how serious that can turn into if you don't do something about it.  I saw a doctor in Kamloops who knew about it and when I asked him what I should do he laughed and said drink lots of water this summer and waved it off.  Now here we are seven years later and I need to start protecting my poor kidneys.

Upon some intense research and deep diving I see I have to completely change my way of eating...again.  To get the kind of food recommendations I have to say I am vegetarian, otherwise I get a thousand recipes that involve chicken.  I hate chicken.  Makes me sick.  I can't eat beef, lamb or lots of pork, too much phosphorous or potassium.  It's just easier to say I am vegetarian.  And I am a type 2 diabetic.  So I am sticking religiously to a low carb, zero sodium, low phosphate, low potassium, no meat diet.  Its awful.  If I eat one more pepper, celery, broccoli or cauliflower I am going to hurl.  What's happening is I am not hungry and I can't eat.  I keep a fat mars bar close by, check my blood four times a day and take one measly bite of the bar if my numbers go below 3.5.

I know that isn't right.  Once in a while I will eat some tofu in a low carb wrap.  Or lettuce chopped up with little chunks of cream cheese in it.  I make soups with zero salt chicken broth and big chunks of vegetables but it's so gross and bland.  I'd rather just not eat.

But here's the worrisome part.  My legs have gone strange, they tingle and are numb in places and I lose my balance.  My feet are super skinny now...sans salt helps that but I don't understand why my legs are not functioning.  And my muscles are fatigued and I just don't feel well.  It's going on two weeks now.

I need to see a doctor but  I don't think I can handle three hours sitting in one of the plastic chairs for fifteen people.  I can hardly sit in my recliner for very long.  I did get hold of a virtual doctor and he is sending me a proper lab req to get that checked out.  So when this weekend is over I will make an appointment at life labs and then go see the doc.  It's possible I am just sick.  It's been so long since I was sick I have forgotten what it's like.  Also my sister mentioned seeing a proper dietitian at the hospital.  I shall be phoning them as soon as this week end is done.  This town shuts down when there isn't a holiday never mind a long weekend due to one.

Well enough of that.  I drag my kitchen chair around with me and liberally use it.  Right now I am cleaning my bedroom out.  I have a deadline...Aug. 13.  I have a recliner being delivered that day.  It will be replacing the twin bed I have used for the last ten years.  I am retiring it and switching to a comfy recliner.  I don't hurt in them.  My hands and arms don't go to sleep in them either.  I can't wait!!!  I bought a cheapo from Walmart.  I figure I don't really want an expensive chair that will outlive me!

So thats it for today.  It's getting late and I need to cheque my blood and try to get some sleep.  

TTYL&TFL

I AM A SECRET (NOW) WARP

 I have always thought I was a warp.  I was a bad kid.  Seriously.  I have a superb memory and I remember waking up in the morning and figuring out a way to piss my mother off and how fast I could do it.  Who the heck does that at age five?  Me.  Warped I tell ya.

  A kindly neighbour took me aside one day when I was about seven or eight and told me I was ruining my brother and my sister.  She gave me a big lecture.  I already knew she didn't like me.  She was my sister's babysitter and she totally loved Kathy.  She made it pretty clear she wasn't too happy with me the odd day I was sick enough not to go to school and joined Kathy at her house.  I certainly didn't hold it against her.

Which brings me to a point.  Do adults think you aren't going to grow up and remember?  I totally remember the not nice things she did to me...clearly.  Fortunately for me I didn't give a hoot.  It didn't turn me in to a poor me victim....or a non warp for that matter.  I understood.  I knew what I was.  I did try now and then to be good like my awesome little sister but it never lasted more than ten minutes!  lol

I don't think my mom liked me much either.  She also did things that were not things I would ever under any circumstances do to one of my kids no matter how warped I think I may be.  Oh she loved me and in an odd way we were very close.  I just annoyed the hell out of her.  And she hated my hair!!!

  Mind you I kinda grew out of the warpness and at 17 she booted me out of the house to live as an au pair in Vancouver. All the way to Vancouver on the bus  I thought it over and made a solid decision to just, in the words of the psychiatrist Bob Newhart played on Carol Burnett, JUST STOP IT!!!  And basically I did.  My kids should be grateful!!!!  hahahaha!!!!

I need to live in a loud, say it like it is (in my mind) and not worry too much about filters community.  No hurting people's feelings though.  Or at least try hard not to.  It's not about that.  It's about not being a milquetoast but not feeling like the odd ugly duck out of water. Hahahaha!!!! Dream on.....I never ever feel like I fit in or belong.  I never have in my entire life except at home with my first babies or when I was at home with my Billy and second batch of kids plus a few others.  I loved it and was at ease and comfortable then.  And now the only three places I never leave feeling like I blew it again is my two daughters couches and my beloved recliner (unless there had been company).  Although the last couple times last year at my kid's places were difficult.  For the first time ever I wasn't comfortable in one of their homes and I left early.  And it was totally my own mouth that caused it.  I haven't regretted something that strongly in a very long time.  As my mother taught me, 'Once you say or do or think something you cannot unsay it, undo it or unthink it.  Control all three.'  Maybe the teaching didn't stick hard enough with me.

I hope this post doesn't come off as 'poor me'!  I am 73 years old and completely jiggy with my 'not belonging'.  It's just who I am and I tried for 72 years to change.  It didn't work!!!!  lol

TFL&TTYL

TEN DAYS!!! I READ BLOGS AND I HATE IT WHEN THEY DON'T POST FOR AGES...I HAVE TO KEEP CHECKING...MY APOLOGIES

 So unreliable.  Honestly I have a weak tiny excuse this time.  This household has actually been sick.  It has been a long time since the three of us got sick.  I almost forgot what being sick felt like and I almost panicked.   The worst symptom other than weakness and tired was my eyesight.  My eyes became wonky and glassy.  There were brown spots, tiny ones, wiping out the view in those spots.  What the hey!!??  Anywho I am completely back to normal this morning and so are the others.  Scary moment over.

I like to do a gratitude think every morning.  I used to aim for five but now I just aim for one super significant one.  I have so many that doing five is easy.  But to narrow it down to an important one is a little more of a thinker.

This morning I was doing my emails and I was reading one of my articles I get each day.  It was written by a minister, an Asian woman in her thirties.  She wrote about how often she has personal sessions with older people in her congregation who are troubled one way or another.  She wrote that she always starts with what is your biggest regret in life and what is your happiest memory.  

The regret was inevitably about their family.  Maybe wishing they had been closer, or their children were closer to each other or the dad wasn't an a-hole. (just kidding, it just seems a lot of family problems begin with an unbending unfeeling father)...really she didn't say that last one.

It got me to thinking about my regret and happy time.  My biggest regret was what I warp I was until I left home at 17.  I was NOT a nice or good kid.  I have written a post about that and I will post it next post.  Accountability!

When the ladies in the congregation said that the happiest times were when they had young kids at home, I had a bolt of realization.  The pastor asked how that could be? Between work, household, kids (and a-hole dad) wasn't it a very stressful time?  And they always answered that being surrounded by their kids in their home at the end of the day was the best memory possible.

And that is when it hit me that I was the luckiest person ever.  I DID IT TWICE!!!!!!!!!!!!  I had my first kids in the early 70's and  consciously loved every single minute of it.  Every single minute.  Part of that could be I was a single mom until those ones were tweeners.  Single.  And the second time was in the late eighties and early 90's.  Now married.  And I loved every moment.  There was a period there where we were blending two families and I will be honest...it wasn't easy...but I still loved it.

Now I have to say here my rather jaded opinion of fathers is absolutely not based on my dad or my Billyboy.  It is based on the news, neighbours, friends, endless information about the latest crime against women and children by dads.  Men are a problem on this earth.

We were blessed with an amazing loving patient father.  Until I grew up I thought all fathers were like him.  I was shocked when I found out that wasn't the case.  And I will admit there were times that were more difficult due to Bill.  But I loved him and to some extent I ruled him and he was open to change because he didn't want to lose me.  We loved each other to pieces.

So my gratitude was threefold....experiencing family life twice, having an amazing loving father and ending up with the love of my life.  What more could one want I ask.

Gotta bounce, I have one terrible kitchen to clean.

TTYL&TFL

FANTASTIC TIME WITH K&K AND A SURPRISE VISIT OUT

 In the last post I mentioned a horrible experience with someone.  Now, I do not write negative things about people I know unless I am super angry, which is rare, or if I don't have their permission.  I do not have this person's permission.  I thought I would but upon asking the answer was no.  So my apologies.  If I am speaking with you on the phone at some time and you HAVE to know I will happily fill you in.  I just can't put it out to the general public.  My apologies.

On Sunday after K&K left Monte and I drove to Campbell River.  We had a mini family reunion up there.  Emily and Baby Gordon, K&K, Stan and Antonia were there.  What a lovely time it was.  Stan was looking good!  Unfortunately we couldn't hug the guy.  He is battling cancer at the moment and is going through a kind of radio active treatment and we couldn't be too close to him.  Soon I am going up again.  Just Monte and I.  I will be able to hug him then.  We had such a wonderful afternoon with them all.  Gordon is growing like a weed and I think he is the happiest baby I have ever seen!!!

They have the most beautiful house.  Their back yard was magnificent.  She is a stellar gardener.  They have a beautiful deck with a little gazebo on it that they have turned into an artists studio.  It was really truly stunning.

And now back to reality.  I have made another two garbage bags of clothes to donate.  Sigh.  And there is still another mountain of clothes to go through.  What the hell was I thinking?!!  You know, every week I put on a clean old shirt and shorts.  And I wear them for a week.  I just don't need more than four shirts, two bottoms, undies and one dressier outfit.  So why the eff do I have bags and bags and Rubbermaids full of stupid clothes I will never wear?

Well thats it for this post.  Sorry about the cryptic horrible story that couldn't get told. I promise you I did not do that on purpose.  I am kind of embarrassed.  I really thought I could tell it.

 I am now about to attempt to make an interesting menu for diabetic renal low sodium peeps.  (massive shovel list). AI helps a lot but she isn't always right.  (another big shovel list).  My saddest discovery is I can't eat liver pate.  I LOVE that stuff but it has over the daily allowance of sodium in two tablespoons.  Wahhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!

TFL&TTYL

PICTURES

THERE WE ALL ARE

SEE?  THE HAPPIEST BABY ON THE PLANET

MY SEVEN FOOT COUCH...NOT LONG ENOUGH

KE

 

WONDERFUL FAMILY VISITS AND ONE HORRIBLE EXPERIENCE

 The visit with Kevin and Tandy and Elise was so good.  It always is.  They are good visitoring visitors.  I did way too much talking of course, always do.  Sigh.  But it was so awesome to see them.

They got here about one and we just sat in the living room and talked.  They caught me up on where the kids are at right now and where they are at with their various issues and adventures.

Soon we were getting hungry.  So I called the Indian restaurant and got a very new to Canada little person.  She had a very strong accent but I was able to understand most of what she said.  Our order was quite complicated.  There were fourteen dishes and condiments, half of them of them spicy and the same seven not spicy.  And on top of that all of them vegan.  Except the fifteenth....lamb korma for Monte.  There were tons left over and I sent the whole lot with them.  They had a huge cooler with ice and their tent trailer has a fridge in it.  I was so happy they took it all!!!

Kathy and Kerry arrived a couple of days later and I cooked a five pound prime rib.  Delicious dinner!!!  The next day we headed out late morning for Bamfield.  What an awesome day that was!!!  Parts of it were a little tough.  I so associate Bill with Bamfield.  We started going there in 1988 until we sold it around 2005.  And we really did go there.  In fact we bought a little trailer and parked it on someone's property and spent summers there.  Eventually we bought a mobile home, a pretty wrecked one full of rats but it was bigger and accommodated visiting rellies!!!

We lived in it (it's gone now) while we built the big log house.  April was five when we move into it.  And of course we drove down there and no one was home so we did a little crawling around to have a look at our beloved house.  It was so weird I almost didn't enjoy it.  Before all that we visited Pachena Bay.  The most amazing place on earth in my opinion!  Two kilometres of white sand in a protected bay.  There could be five thousand people on that beach and it would still feel empty.  It hosts the start of the West Coast Trail.

The next day we went to the Historical site of the McLain Mill on the edge of town.  It is quite the place.  So peaceful and interesting.  It was a perfect visit.  Pics in the next post, maybe. (shovel list)   They left at the end of that mill visit to head down to Cobble Hill to visit a brother of Kerry's.  We had such a lovely visit.

So this has become quite long so I will mention the horrible thing next post.  I have to be delicate about what I say but it will help people understand, if they give a hoot, a little more about someone near and dear.  I apologize for being so cryptic but I need to think about it a little more.  Fortunately the one I will write about never reads this.

Well tomorrow will be another stellar day.  We are heading up to Campbell river to visit my brother.  Emily and new baby will be there and so will K&K.  It will be a chance for us three kids to get an updated picture of the three of us.  Monte and I don't plan to stay for supper.  That is a lot for my brother's wife and she isn't young anymore. Plus Monte can only hold it all in for two hours max.

So thats it for today.  I shall check in a wee bit sooner next post.      TFL&TTYL